Change
For good or bad, relationship changes over time. It sounds obvious enough, since all things change over time. But we tend to believe, assume or even pretend that relationship is something which can be kept steady; and when it becomes blindingly obvious that it has changed, the awakening hurts.
That's what I felt when I was convinced that a two decade old - approaching three - relationship has reached a turning point, sadly, for widening divergence - if not forthright termination. The awakening came when a well-intended phone call of simply getting in touch was rewarded with pointless spitefulness. It was the last straw which broke the camel's back; the last drop of water which spilled the glass.
It is sadly true that the older one gets, the harder it is to make new friends. So it is sadder still that old relationship may turn sour. But then age is not what matters most in a relationship, which cannot genuinely last in the absence of goodwill and respect.
When it comes to companionship - for fun, comfort, encouragement or sharing any other sentiments, or simply staying in touch, or doing whatever for keeping the friendship alive - the last thing I need is pointlessly crude judgment.
But I put up with it - as I have been putting up with it over the years - and in face of which, I naively began to think and believe that humbleness was the best way out. Ironically, there is just a fine line between humbleness and hypocrisy in terms of how it is perceived, although - as far as I am concerned - clearly distinguishable in terms of how it is intended. So even if staying humble doesn't work, and when I was perceived as the one having changed, that's it.
C'est la vie!
That's what I felt when I was convinced that a two decade old - approaching three - relationship has reached a turning point, sadly, for widening divergence - if not forthright termination. The awakening came when a well-intended phone call of simply getting in touch was rewarded with pointless spitefulness. It was the last straw which broke the camel's back; the last drop of water which spilled the glass.
It is sadly true that the older one gets, the harder it is to make new friends. So it is sadder still that old relationship may turn sour. But then age is not what matters most in a relationship, which cannot genuinely last in the absence of goodwill and respect.
When it comes to companionship - for fun, comfort, encouragement or sharing any other sentiments, or simply staying in touch, or doing whatever for keeping the friendship alive - the last thing I need is pointlessly crude judgment.
But I put up with it - as I have been putting up with it over the years - and in face of which, I naively began to think and believe that humbleness was the best way out. Ironically, there is just a fine line between humbleness and hypocrisy in terms of how it is perceived, although - as far as I am concerned - clearly distinguishable in terms of how it is intended. So even if staying humble doesn't work, and when I was perceived as the one having changed, that's it.
C'est la vie!
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